The Conversation You Don’t Want to Miss

“Mum, what’s a period?” If those five words have ever caught you off guard, you’re not alone. Whether it comes during a shopping trip, a TV ad, or while folding laundry, that question signals an important moment.

Explaining menstruation to your child might feel awkward at first, especially if you didn’t receive much guidance yourself growing up. But today’s kids deserve better openness, honesty, and empowerment.

This guide will help you:

  • Start the puberty period talk early and with confidence
  • Break down menstruation in a way kids understand
  • Prepare for the first period discussion with care and clarity
  • Build a foundation of body literacy and self-respect

No matter where your child is on their journey, you’re in the right place to make this conversation one they’ll remember, for all the right reasons.

Why It’s Important to Talk About Periods Early

Silence Breeds Confusion and Shame

In many households, periods are still treated as taboo. Children learn to whisper about them, hide sanitary pads, or feel embarrassed about their bodies.

But when you initiate age-appropriate conversations, you give your child:

  • Knowledge they can trust
  • Confidence in their body
  • Permission to ask questions

According to the Royal College of Paediatrics and Child Health, many girls get their first period between the ages of 9 and 13 — some even earlier. Waiting too long can mean they experience their first bleed without any idea of what’s happening.

When to Start the Period Talk

A Good Rule of Thumb: Start by Age 8

Even if your child hasn’t shown physical signs of puberty,the first period can come earlier than expected.

Early discussions mean:

  • No fear or confusion when it begins
  • They know what products to use
  • They know who to talk to if they need help

How to Prepare for the Period Conversation

A woman and a girl sit on a bed, playing a hand-clapping game, surrounded by a cozy room with a colorful patterned wall.

1. Know Your Facts

Brush up on:

  • What happens during the menstrual cycle
  • How long do periods usually last
  • Normal vs. concerning symptoms
  • Product options (pads, period pants, tampons)

2. Choose a Comfortable Time

Good moments include:

  • Shopping for toiletries
  • Watching a movie scene involving puberty
  • When you’re both relaxed, not rushed or stressed

3. Use Clear, Body-Positive Language

Avoid euphemisms like “Aunt Flo” or “monthly visitor”. Say:

  • “Menstruation” or “period”
  • “Vagina”, “uterus”, “blood”, “cramps” — using correct terms reduces confusion and builds trust.

What to Say: Breaking It Down by Age

Ages 6–8: Introducing the Concept

Keep it simple and positive.

“As girls grow up, their bodies change, and one of those changes is something called a period. It means the body is getting ready to have babies one day — but that’s for much later!”

Use illustrated books like “It’s Not the Stork” to support your talk.

Ages 9–11: Getting More Detailed

This is the ideal time to go deeper.

“A period happens when the uterus gets rid of its lining. It comes out of the vagina as blood. It’s a sign your body is healthy and growing.”

Cover:

  • What pads and liners are
  • How to track a cycle
  • What to expect emotionally and physically

Common Period Questions (and How to Answer Them)

Two women share an intimate moment outdoors, surrounded by greenery, one woman gently touches the other's arm in a warm embrace.

“Will it hurt?”

“You might feel cramps like a tummy ache, but there are ways to feel better — warm packs, rest, and even medicine if needed.”

“How much blood comes out?”

“It might look like a lot, but it’s usually about 3 to 6 tablespoons over several days.”

“Can I still play sports?”

“Absolutely. Periods shouldn’t stop you from doing what you love. Some people even find exercise helps with cramps.”

“Do I have to use a tampon?”

“No. You can choose what feels right. Pads or period pants are great for starting out.”

Preparing for the First Period

Create a Period Kit Together

Include:

  • A few pads
  • Pantyliners
  • Spare underwear
  • Wipes
  • A zip pouch to carry in her school bag

Teach Her How to Use Products

Show how to:

  • Stick a pad to your underwear
  • Dispose of products properly
  • Track periods on a calendar or app

Consider role-playing so she feels ready.

How to Be Emotionally Supportive

Reassure Her She’s Normal

Remind her:

  • Everyone goes through this
  • Periods are not dirty or shameful
  • There’s no “right age” to start

Watch for Emotional Swings

Hormonal changes can bring:

  • Irritability
  • Moodiness
  • Fatigue

Help her name her feelings and learn coping tools like journaling, rest, or gentle exercise.

What Dads (and Other Caregivers) Need to Know

Men and non-menstruating caregivers often feel unsure about their role, but your presence matters.

Tips for Dads:

  • Use the correct terms without hesitation
  • Support product shopping with confidence
  • Don’t make jokes — even “harmless” ones can hurt
  • Be ready to listen without trying to fix

Showing support without awkwardness builds trust.

Creating a Period-Positive Home

A woman holds a potted flower while a girl embraces her from behind, surrounded by various indoor plants on shelves.

1. Keep Products Visible

Store pads, liners, and other supplies in shared spaces — like the bathroom — not hidden away.

2. Talk Openly Around Siblings

Teach boys that periods are natural too:

  • “Periods are part of how bodies work.”
  • “It’s something all girls and women go through.”

This builds empathy and reduces teasing.

3. Celebrate the First Period

Consider:

  • A “period celebration box” with treats and essentials
  • A simple note of pride and encouragement
  • Asking how she wants to acknowledge it — quietly or openly

The goal isn’t to make it a big deal, but a normal, respected milestone.

Real-Life Stories From Parents

“We Laughed Through It”

“When my daughter got her first period at a theme park, we had nothing on us. I wrapped a T-shirt around her underwear and bought pads at the gift shop. We turned it into a silly memory — and now she’s the most confident 13-year-old I know.”

“The Dad Who Stepped Up”

“My partner took our daughter shopping for her first pads when I was away. He didn’t flinch. He just said, ‘Let’s get what you need — and ice cream.’ It meant everything to her.”

When to Seek Medical Advice

While most periods are normal, you should contact your GP if your child:

  • Gets her period before age 8
  • Has extremely heavy bleeding (soaking through a pad every 1–2 hours)
  • Experiences severe pain that disrupts daily life
  • Misses periods for several months after they’ve started

Always follow your instincts and don’t hesitate to ask for help.

Conclusion: This Conversation Is a Gift

Explaining menstruation might feel daunting at first, but it’s one of the most valuable talks you can have with your child. It’s not just about body changes — it’s about:

  • Building trust
  • Creating body literacy
  • Empowering her to care for herself

Remember:

  • Start early and keep the puberty conversation going
  • Be honest, calm, and factual
  • Celebrate this natural milestone with pride and empathy

Your voice — steady, kind, and informed — will become her inner compass as she steps into womanhood.

Ready to Talk Periods?

Have you had the period talk yet? How did it go? Share your experience or favourite tips in the comments. Subscribe for expert-led puberty parenting content. Know a parent who’s unsure how to begin? Send this their way — it could change everything.